We all will agree with this fact that the only thing that is constant in the life are “CHANGES”. In the past also the world was changing, but the development and technologies had brought a terrific change in the mentalities and living of the people. Previously the people use to live simple life with their family and friends. There were no electrical appliances, neither telephones nor cell phones, not many vehicles and no internet. As the time passed by, some things we have invented and some we have adopted from the western culture.
In the undergoing scenario, the craze of following the western culture is increasing day by day. The old generations are living their life in their way following the past and the new generation have made their life entirely different. In the olden days, I am not going very far but yet talking about 30-40 years back, the children in their student life doesn’t use to have motorbikes, cellphones or moreover tabs with them. Most of the people at that time were not so rich to afford all these facilities or gadgets or rather we can see in the other way also that we were not much technologically rich in the past era.
Now a days we are having all sorts of gadgets and the parents at the early age provide the gadgets and vehicles to the kids. I am not saying that updating your kids is a wrong move, but before that you should tell them everything about the use and misuse, difficulties faced by that and the ways to come out if any problem comes. The parents in the earlier times never try to shared anything with their children some times because of shame and sometimes by saying that at this small age there is no need to tell them all the things. But they have to know that now the time has been changed drastically. Its high time to be the friends of their children from the early age rather to treat them as a parent. Don’t be strict with them, try to start living in their scenario, try to know them, their likes, dislikes, friends , enemies, threats, fears, goals, achievements and last but not the least the main one is their problems.
There is not any problem if you are not with your children in their good times, but always be with them in their bad tenure. After all they are small, nevertheless they may show that they have become grown up and cool now, let them think, it’s their time to fly. But you all should be intelligent enough to deal with the coolness and smartness of your kids. Sometimes it happens that the children comes in big problems because of their over smartness, but try to resolve the problems by sitting and talking on them.
Never try to be violent and never try to hit your kid on any issue, it will take you away from them. They will start hating you and will start hiding their matters from you. They will start sharing their talks with an outsider that will be really dangerous and risky for them and for the family too.
Try to take out each and every word out from your child’s heart. From their childhood itself teach them one thing that “we are family and no relation is big and real than our bonding, always share each and everything with the family members.” Sometimes your kids are very jumbled and are very puzzled and are trapped inside their thoughts only, many problems surrounds them and a phase comes in everyones life when he feels alone and there is no near and dear one to share his life. Have faith on your children and make your position so strong in their heart that no one can overcome your presence. Trust your kids and try to resolve their problems without disputes. Also, you should also share your family problems with your children, keep the problems in front of them, ask for the solution, advices and ask them what they have done in place of you in that particular situation. This will not only bring your child close to you, but also they will feel their importance in the family and bonding will be more strong. Take the advice from everyone in the family whatever be the last decision it will be yours, treat every individual equally ,maintain the feeling of respect amongst all.
If your child wants you to be updated and a bit modern and presentable so what’s bad in that. Don’t bring your ego in between that why should I change my beliefs and principles. Its good to change with the time .Try to be involve with them on the social networking sites and internet. In that way you will be updated also and you will be well acknowledged with what your children are doing on the internet. Best way to protect your children is be with them as their shelter and shadow, where shelter means their advisor and shadow means their friend.
Don’t interfere in their personal lives, don’t check their messages, diaries and mails. Children at the teenagers age want some privacies and would not like the interference of anyone .Let them enjoy their life with their friends, either male or female. Don’t say no to your children for just a matter of a boy as a friend or girl as a friend. World has changed now, say them to be secure and strict with boys, but don’t restrict them everytime.
Make such a relation with your kids that they also listen to you and you too listen to them, they trust on you and you trust on them. You Change some what according to them, they will also realize and do whatever you say. Don’t show yourself superior to them, respect each others feelings. Make such a beautiful and tension free environment of your house that people say that what a wonderful family you have.
Don’t give any chance to anyone to say a single word against you and your family. At the end whatever be the bitter truth of your family you have to deal with it ,never try to involve others be it your child’s marks problem or love marriage problem. We all are literates and can possibly take out the solution of each and every problem.
Follow only one funda of life to make it easy:
“Never give tensions, never take tensions,
Live the life in such a manner that people see you and think that what an amazing creature you are.”
Nevertheless one thing that makes your life easy is “SMILE”.
Don’t forget that we have came empty handed on this earth, and will leave the earth same, then why to waste the life by destroying it. Understand one thing that its obvious to have an age gap in every generation but it is a serious need of today to abridge this gap.
It’s my hearty appeal to all the readers that the security of future generation is in your hands, “don’t let them go in vain because gone people’s never come again.”
In the undergoing scenario, the craze of following the western culture is increasing day by day. The old generations are living their life in their way following the past and the new generation have made their life entirely different. In the olden days, I am not going very far but yet talking about 30-40 years back, the children in their student life doesn’t use to have motorbikes, cellphones or moreover tabs with them. Most of the people at that time were not so rich to afford all these facilities or gadgets or rather we can see in the other way also that we were not much technologically rich in the past era.
Now a days we are having all sorts of gadgets and the parents at the early age provide the gadgets and vehicles to the kids. I am not saying that updating your kids is a wrong move, but before that you should tell them everything about the use and misuse, difficulties faced by that and the ways to come out if any problem comes. The parents in the earlier times never try to shared anything with their children some times because of shame and sometimes by saying that at this small age there is no need to tell them all the things. But they have to know that now the time has been changed drastically. Its high time to be the friends of their children from the early age rather to treat them as a parent. Don’t be strict with them, try to start living in their scenario, try to know them, their likes, dislikes, friends , enemies, threats, fears, goals, achievements and last but not the least the main one is their problems.
There is not any problem if you are not with your children in their good times, but always be with them in their bad tenure. After all they are small, nevertheless they may show that they have become grown up and cool now, let them think, it’s their time to fly. But you all should be intelligent enough to deal with the coolness and smartness of your kids. Sometimes it happens that the children comes in big problems because of their over smartness, but try to resolve the problems by sitting and talking on them.
Never try to be violent and never try to hit your kid on any issue, it will take you away from them. They will start hating you and will start hiding their matters from you. They will start sharing their talks with an outsider that will be really dangerous and risky for them and for the family too.
Try to take out each and every word out from your child’s heart. From their childhood itself teach them one thing that “we are family and no relation is big and real than our bonding, always share each and everything with the family members.” Sometimes your kids are very jumbled and are very puzzled and are trapped inside their thoughts only, many problems surrounds them and a phase comes in everyones life when he feels alone and there is no near and dear one to share his life. Have faith on your children and make your position so strong in their heart that no one can overcome your presence. Trust your kids and try to resolve their problems without disputes. Also, you should also share your family problems with your children, keep the problems in front of them, ask for the solution, advices and ask them what they have done in place of you in that particular situation. This will not only bring your child close to you, but also they will feel their importance in the family and bonding will be more strong. Take the advice from everyone in the family whatever be the last decision it will be yours, treat every individual equally ,maintain the feeling of respect amongst all.
If your child wants you to be updated and a bit modern and presentable so what’s bad in that. Don’t bring your ego in between that why should I change my beliefs and principles. Its good to change with the time .Try to be involve with them on the social networking sites and internet. In that way you will be updated also and you will be well acknowledged with what your children are doing on the internet. Best way to protect your children is be with them as their shelter and shadow, where shelter means their advisor and shadow means their friend.
Don’t interfere in their personal lives, don’t check their messages, diaries and mails. Children at the teenagers age want some privacies and would not like the interference of anyone .Let them enjoy their life with their friends, either male or female. Don’t say no to your children for just a matter of a boy as a friend or girl as a friend. World has changed now, say them to be secure and strict with boys, but don’t restrict them everytime.
Make such a relation with your kids that they also listen to you and you too listen to them, they trust on you and you trust on them. You Change some what according to them, they will also realize and do whatever you say. Don’t show yourself superior to them, respect each others feelings. Make such a beautiful and tension free environment of your house that people say that what a wonderful family you have.
Don’t give any chance to anyone to say a single word against you and your family. At the end whatever be the bitter truth of your family you have to deal with it ,never try to involve others be it your child’s marks problem or love marriage problem. We all are literates and can possibly take out the solution of each and every problem.
Follow only one funda of life to make it easy:
“Never give tensions, never take tensions,
Live the life in such a manner that people see you and think that what an amazing creature you are.”
Nevertheless one thing that makes your life easy is “SMILE”.
Don’t forget that we have came empty handed on this earth, and will leave the earth same, then why to waste the life by destroying it. Understand one thing that its obvious to have an age gap in every generation but it is a serious need of today to abridge this gap.
It’s my hearty appeal to all the readers that the security of future generation is in your hands, “don’t let them go in vain because gone people’s never come again.”
2 comments:
Great post Anusha. I really appreciate your thinking on generation gap. I knew the problem of generation gap because i believes to live in current generation and have to change according to the time but my father is still living in their generation so some times i am in problem of different thinking. But still my father is best.
It is just fantastic post.
Thanks Tanvish .
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